Being stuck is an experience where one may feel or think that no progress is being made. It may come in the form of holding on to historical events or the fear of advancement. Many assume that getting unstuck is a matter of ridding themselves and environment of other people; removing themselves from a specific location; or acquiring more stuff. In actuality, stuckness is caused by a lack of growth within the mind. Here are 3 keys to getting unstuck.
Locating Emotional Blind Spots
Blind spots are areas within range of sight that cannot be seen. The thing about blind spots is that even though unseen, they still have the ability to impact you. Emotional blind spots involve awareness; it’s the awareness of both the presence of the blind spot and the impact it has on the mind. For example, a person who may be considered “clingy” in relationships may not see the thinking pattern of the fear of rejection. The emotional blind spot in this instance might be remembering the hurt caused from childhood rejection. Overtime, that rejection created a schema or a way of thinking that “people closest to you have the capacity to reject you”. Some may develop the coping mechanism of needy or possessive while others may avoid companionship altogether.
Locating emotional blind spots grants the opportunity to discover why you think, what you think which ultimately leads to a shift in mindset. In this case, locating the emotional blind spot assists in correcting the false belief “that those closest to them will reject them”. Replacing that false belief with the truth that “those events were isolated to a person or group and not a universal truth of all people” is freedom. Truth is rooted in love and leads to freedom; it does not harm, oppress, or bind.
Shifting Your Perspective
A shift in perspective looks like replacing the false belief with the truth. You go from thinking one way to seeing things from a different vantage point. Being stuck can be likened to repeating the same thoughts, speech, and actions over and over again. It’s not this idea of being still as much as it is a matter of living the same way without progress. Too often, many people look for external progress to validate inner prosperity. Expansion happens within first. Even if an individual experiences promotion externally, those blind spots won’t allow them to see their advancement.
Shifting your perspective may take time, but it’s worth it. It requires practice. Meditating, repeating, or considering the truth on a daily basis leads to a new mindset; you are basically setting your mind on the new thought.
Living in Unstuckness
There comes a point in time when the only thing left to do is live in the truth or the new thought. People tend to get stuck at this point because its like foreign territory. Too many don’t know who they are or what to do without fear or the false belief. Living in a false belief for a prolonged period of time impacts identity and how one sees themselves; so, venturing out in to a new lifestyle can seem daunting. While one will see natural change simply by a shift in perspective, there ultimately has to be a decision made to stop gathering information and evidence and live in unstuckness. Making hindrances a way of life only keeps you bound but choosing to walk out the truth you know creates expansion.
This takes courage, however, shifting your actions little by little will bring you to the other side of the mountain you never thought you could make it over.
Lifework
Based on this article, set aside at least 10 minutes to consider the following:
What are 2-3 emotional blind spots that may keep you “stuck”?
What mindsets have been created from those emotional blind spots?
What is the truth about those blind spots and false beliefs?
What are some ways you can begin to live in or act on the truth?
Be sure to journal your experience.
This content is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.