Becoming authentic requires facing some hard truths about our behavior, emotions and philosophy towards life. Many of us are conducting business in our adult bodies with the mind of the teenage self. We continue to move forward with the same paradigm from the past expecting a different reality.
Here are 5 wack things we do as adults and need to seriously stop:
Taking out our phones in moments of silence or discomfort. The elevator ride isn’t that long. You don’t need to whip out your device and pretend to be preoccupied. So, you may be alone at a networking event; the entire point in attending is so that you can network. And allowing this third-wheel, named iPhone or Android, to come in between what could be intimate moments with family, friends or partners is extra wack. Stay in the present and enjoy what and who is around you. Even when you are alone, start to bask in the blessing of solitude.
Saying we are ok but we aren’t. Because of society asking how are you? is more like a script than it is a genuine question steeped in genuine interest. Most often our automatic response is I’m good, and you? Let’s stop fronting, pretending that everything is ok when we are sad, stressed, confused, or in lack. I am advocate for speaking things into existence and positive self-talk but we must get well within. We must stop hiding behind plastic smiles and filters and truly connect to wholeness. We must be ok with things not being ok so to the point where all is truly ok.
Living beyond our means. Budget is not a dirty word; it’s just a record of what’s coming in and what’s going out. Please do not overspend and then complain about not having enough. Financial stewardship is a major key in adulthood.
Dating people we know we don’t want to be with. Takes deep breath. Clarity in romantic relationships save parties a lifetime of pain. Please stop sending your representative out for the first four to six months and then pull a switch-a-roo, debuting yourself. I beseech thee, be your full self from the beginning not matter how beautiful – ugly you may be. The sooner the better.
Saying yes, when we want to say no, and vice versa. There are moments when I think to myself you know, really don’t have to do this. I am not sure if its personality or politically correctness but we have the right to say yes and no to opportunities and people. The worse thing to do is to commit to a thing you loathe. Prayerfully consider your decisions, then make it without wavering.
There is a scripture that says: when I was a child, I spoke like a child, I understood like a child, I thought like a child: but when I became a (wo)man, I put away childish things. Put that rattle down and surrender your bow-bow. Adult-ing is fun when you behave like one.